My husband is a 3rd year ENT resident, and we started dating right before he started med school. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. And her husband now is dead and she is left to wonder about their future. Cold approaches on Mormon girls are challenging. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. I hope it all works out for you. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. I also just care about him enough and admire his reasons for becoming a doctor that I'm willing to make sacrifices so that his life is easier.
I hate that it's all on his terms. I was skeptical whether this would work with Mormon girlsв sheltered girls who would never step inside a dance club or be wooed by pickup artists. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. Having said that, I believe strongly that it takes a special individual who can remain active in the church and have a non-traditional marriage. Oh well, I'll just pretend she's not mormon and see what happens. The Mormon girl has the light of Christ shining through her, and you were drawn in.
I just feel relieved that there are others of you out there in the same boat as me. See if you can become involved only if it follows your strengths and desires. I have been married to a doctor for 29 years now and think I have felt or experienced many of the worries expressed. I don't think people really understand how lonely it can get, unless you are married to one.
I find myself oscillating between empathy, pity, and rage, but lately, it's been mostly rage. Don't let her try to bring in the missionaries to explain; remind her that she is an RM and knows all they do and probably much more. I'm afraid he's going to be more in love with work than me and a family. Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. God knows the big picture. And then run from this girl if you don't think there's a chance she'll wake up. I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays. I am so in need of a support group. We still joke about the latter. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are.
